imaginary friends

evi loves talking to her many, many friends in her head, it even includes daddy.

well i say that because she sometimes say " daddy says cannot do ...... wan" or when she is angry she will say "i tell daddy wan ah, i am going to tell daddy" or she picks up the phone, poke a few numbers and start talking to daddy.

her imaginary friends range from animals to cartoon characters to whatever or whoever pops into her head. she plays with them the whole day and talks non-stop if there are no human available for her to "harass".

she has own style too and character...her special head band made up of dangling pink goggles...really cute fashionista.

latest craze is playing with rope and tying up everything in the whole house...her fave victim is rossie!! who gently obliged, loving the attention.

party pooper?

evi is in party mood, her birthday is coming up and she is excited to have some fun (when is she ever not doing this?).

she keep saying ~ "i want to have a party but daddy is not back yet"

i told her ~ "he has a lot to do in heaven, that's why he can't be back"

she gave me the look and must be wondering what a load of "crap"!! is there so much to do in heaven besides golfing, rallying, eating, drinking (?), watching telly.

maybe daddy is a gardener is heaven coz elli dreamt he brought home lots of flowers for us, or maybe he is a florist (nah!! even heaven can't make that possible)

not sure what he is doing...just that he is really busy being a party pooper!!

questions questions questions

evi is now curious where her daddy is hiding from her for so long, so she starts asking questions to probe mommy.

evi : mommy, who make this nice bathroom?
me : daddy did it
evi : mommy, who buy this thing?
me: daddy bought it

so last night when the 2 che ches were away in tuition, she was alone with mommy then she started asking again.

evi : mommy, where is daddy? where did daddy go? where is daddy, mommy? (many many times...repeatingly)

all i said was he is in heaven...

i was taken aback with her need to know, maybe this is the age of understanding or realisation. she has been saying daddy is in the office or working in the office, as she sees her mommy going and coming back from office, so one day dad will too? little little things are being observed and has triggered her curiosity.

3 years 8 months 2 weeks. we (che ches & i) will give you the answers slowly and you will have a full understanding as you grow up.

update 29 Feb 2012

evi again started - why daddy has a lot to do in heaven? when will he finish his work? is he handsome? is he cute? can i box his face?

then she asked me to open the window, so she can see daddy, she said i can see daddy in his friend's house or she can see him far off in the pink light with lions (her imagination is cute) or he is outside the house.

after talking a lot, she then closed the window and said thank you mommy for opening the window.

elli's new year

poor girl after going to school 1 day, she fell sick for almost a week. lost a lot of weight - more bones than flesh now. unexpectedly after all that, she stopped her favourite activity - my milk guzzler has now totally stopped drinking milk. i am trying to entice her to continue since she can't eat fish which eliminates a lot of food coz she's not crazy for beef or lamb. she loves her veg & fruits...my lil vegetarian. her fave fruits are the red dragon fruit & durian...yumms

with the start of school comes all the activities - gymrama (wed & sat), tuition classes (mon, tue & thurs) and homework (everyday). was thinking of giving her music lessons...shall see how she copes. not much room for play...thankfully CNY is just around the corner and will enjoy the coming long break.

update 13 Jan - elli is back to her normal milk guzzling self...mommy is happy.

new school year

4 January - elli went to school though it would be counted as her 2nd day since her orientation on 30 Dec, she was in her element with friends all around - she is a happy camper. mommy was exhausted visiting her 3 times today - assembly, recess & going home time. however mommy met other mommies from her class & even a mommy from erika's previous classmate (amanda) ~ small world. bad news is elli, started to have aches in her hand and legs when school day ended. so mommy took her to see her paed and she was running a fever...so this week only went to school 1 day, hopefully all recovered to see her friends next week.

orientation day ~ evi after seeing elli dressed up in full uniform, asked to wear the same. so the 2 went to school together, elli said "mom i am shy walking next to evi, embarrasing". evi pulled off as a std 1 pupil, thanks to her size...funny thing is this girl also happily suck a bottle of milk while walking around the school.

{note - it was super tiring with the heat, excitement & all, mommy need to take the weekend to recover. going to school is hard work}


5 January - evi 1st day in kindy, happy that it was uneventful, no tears, she just went in happily at 8:45 and played along. when mommy & elli (sick didn't go school) went to get her at 12:15 teacher wanted to meet me...oh oh....said evi is too strong willed and do not want to join in circle time. mommy knows evi is just acting herself, she is not different or difficult, just being evi. mommy wants to know if the teacher is able to entice evi by manipulating the environment to let her enjoy circle time (not sure ??). of cos mommy needed to do homework and encourage evi to play "circle time" at home ~ hope it works & no need to see teacher again. today (6 January) evi was all tears at the gate....hopefully dried up fast. report from teacher was evi is much better today and was able to join some group activity....great...more "circle time" play at home to boost this learning experience. she has to learn that she is not the center of the universe...

erika is having a red eye....wanted to do all the home remedy on her like putting a slice of potato on her eye, but she wouldn't let me, so only ice. read that it will go away in a week even if nothing is done, so fingers cross. now her eye is slightly swollen though not red yet.

hope next week will be way better!!

evira talking

almost 3 years old now and she talks cute

"mom, can i have peekabooo mien? pleassss", "can you switch on peekabooo mien" ~ she meant can i watch 'despicable me' (the movie)

"dun say old lady, i tell popo wan"

"i go to taman tun school"

"my name is evira"

"i want lipstick mommy, put lipstick for me pleesss" (bring my bag - pout her lips all ready for some red hot action)

"you say sorry, say sorrryyyyyy" to any kid that push her around and they will have to deal with her "polite" wrath.


evi -did you eat the chocolate cake?

"no i di den, not me" (with a cute choc-straight-face and evidence smudged all over hands and face!!)

are u sure, you didn't?

"not me, i din, i diinn eat the cake"

ok, was the chocolate cake nice?

"yes, it was yummy, i like it"

loooong day for evi

i could not sleep today, evi too. maybe she knows she's going to go through something very major today.

me worried, asked the world to pray for her that all will go as smoothly as it should.

evi may sense the panic in my face this whole time but not know how to respond to it. so she had rashes all over, making me more panicky as i was afraid the docs won't help her if she is not perfectly healthy. i kept rubbing her with special ointment, massaging her, praying all the redness will go down and all the lil dots will subside within a few hours!! also thinking and wondering is it a sign not to bring her in? i really need a sign from god on this one.

was up at 3 entertaining evi and trying hard to distract her from taking even a single drop. going under g.a. is no easy task. finally at 7 took her to take a bath, she was in high spirits.

mah mah came to pick us up to the hospital...a bit of traffic but thank god we found a parking spot.

once we were in, to my relief we were immediately identified and showed where to go. my panic went up a few notches but try to put a brave front for evi.

1st lil girl went in to the o.t. came out screaming....oh no!! made me wanna tear up to see that...heartbreaking.

then i had to carry evi in, to my surprise she was so cooperative until they put the gas mask on her face. i can see a whole class of doctors were waiting to see the surgeons perform their work - that was quite weird.

she put up a fiesty and screaming fight...the hardest part for me was to leave her after she was knocked out. then my big prayer to god was to give those doctors the wisdom and a good heart to do all they can for evi.

much to my relief after 1 and half hours she was out...snoring and so peacefully sleeping...doctors came and gave lots of reassurance that they tried really hard to save as many tooth as they can, and took as little as they had to.
;
evi was so cute, she said...in between tears "my front teeth lost ledi, mommy". thank god they had quite good pain management and the nurses were great too.

promise evi that we will be as good to the rest of her baby teeth and will help her keep them as clean as possible.


update 28 Feb ~ went for follow-up check and everything looks great...gums healed and all fillings intact. doc said no milk on bottle if possible (well not ready for it) so she said must be less than 5 min of bottle time to maintain good teeth. oklah...will do that and force her to brush anytime and everywhere. now her new bff is the "brush", which she hates!!

reward scheme

finish final exams for the year, time for results.

erika thought of an ingenious way to reward herself for all the hard and labourous work she did to prepare for the exams, so she propose this to kong kong over dinner (hoping to catch him in good mood and go with the scheme).

if i get no. 1 - then you pay me $1 (wah so cheap only ah....wait read on)
if i get no, 2 - then you pay me $2
if i get no, 3 - then you pay me $3
if i get no, 4 - then you pay me $4
if i get no, 5 - then you pay me $5

you can see where this is heading right? in the very, very "right" direction so that she will definitely receive a huge award.

she's hoping she comes out last!

wonder where she got all those "brilliant" ideas?

park play

celebrated malaysia day in malaysian style.

went to the park to play water and sand in the "longkang" stream and eat nasi lemak and drank teh tarik. laundryamah and her 2 darlings came to join bringing along hula hoops and a nice food container, in it was her freshly baked yummylicious orange sponge cake in a horsie shape and squares...so much effort on presentation.

evira was smitten by the container more than anything else. we thought she wanted the cake, so gave her a piece, she ate some but dropped more crumbs for the monkeys than hansel and gretel. actually what she wanted was to use it as a chair for her bum...but with her 16 kg...better not and obviously not on food!! so laundryamah told her nicely she cannot seat.

evi looked at laundryamah and keep saying "selfish!, selfish!"

potty

evira is finally on her way to be diaper free (i hope)

when she feels the urge, she will say in this order -" i wan to orr see" then "can you take out my diaper" then "u gotta move the stick to open the toilet door" (i have added my ol' fashion security feature since the break-in) then "help me sit on the toilet"

so once she is on the throne, she will say "go away mommy, go away"

she needs her privacy to do her business.

this poor girl does not have very good bowel movements, if it goes for more than 2 days....u can be assured that it's a painful crying affair with big hard rocks stained with a little blood being pushed out from my poor baby...she does look like she is almost delivering a baby! if that happens and those rocks still cannot make its way out, then its medication to the rescue. once its out, the relief is more for the mommy than poor baby.

chain drinker

That's what baby does...she chain drinks.

before knocking off to bed at nite, she sucks at least 2 bottles of milk plus a bottle of water. even in a new diaper - it overflows by 4am...then this talking 2 year old will start complaining "my shirt is wet and my pants is wet, take out my diaper" then after cleaning her up..."go make nen nen for me" "mom dun sleep wake up, go make nen nen"

if i don't or popo don't

"the police man come and catch you, eeeor eeeor, hurry up....you stooooopid....go make nen nen for me, stooopid, hurry up, sorry mommy forever" (for saying stupid). "pees mommy go or not i will scold you one"

if the nen nen is cold "this is no good, i dun like...this is rubbish!!!"


the "stoopid" word is learn from kong kong....

time to kill

now i realise being a mom makes me a killer too. it's so easy to be one these days!! it's just the opposite side of the same coin.

erika just told me in secrecy that a stooooopid tuition teacher in her tuition center (this one not teaching her summore) "touched her thigh sloooooowly" she was alone the most for a few minutes and unfortunate that no one was there....grrrrrrrr

fire came shooting out my eyes when i heard that....immediately called the center to make a humongous fuss.

told the girls i am going to buy a gun now.

they both say dun buy mom, the police will catch you if you kill him. (they still can think straight, while mom is going crazy)

i said i shoot him in the tuition center la.

erika said got camera in the center

(ohhhh - camera ah....maybe caught the guy red-handed) ...

still dunno how la...stopped her tuition until *&%$$@ is removed.

no place is safe for your children!!!!

viiiideo

evi loves watching video. everyday she begs to do just that.

so yesterday when i just returned home and was starting dinner, she came running and grab my hand saying "i wanna watch viiideo mommy". she kept pulling but i told her let me finish dinner then she gets to watch.

of cos that is not acceptable for her and started to throw her usual fit.

i said calmly "that will not work on me, stop it" (not expecting it will get into her head at all). to my surprise she stopped for a few seconds, then a light bulb switched on in her head and she changed tactic.

she immediately open up her arms and pout her lips and said "kiss kiss"

so i let her kiss la...not everyday you get free kisses.

but i still said after i finish dinner 1st.

she got MAD. started her tantrum and said "u stooor pit mommy"

i got mad too and said "did you scold me???"

she stopped, eyes looking guilty and shook her head and said "sorry mommy" with a kiss

then pulled my hand again...this time took her upstairs to my room and switch on the video (she wins - gotta watch her video while relaxing on my comfy bed)

moral of the story: love works!

evi's prayer

this is evi's prayer

tank que God for ser food (this is very important!! and always her opening prayer line, even when we are ready for bed and nite nite...its still the food.)
bess my mommy
bess my ellisa
bess my house
bess my popo
bess my kong kong... (u get the flow- her list of blessing is pretty long)
then mommy says in Jesus's name
she will sign and say a.....men

evi is turning 2

everyone is surprised that she is not turning 3 or 4, but she is only turning 2.

they kept asking mommy...u sure...so long only 2 years old. she's so matured and talks like "auntie" that everyone thot she is waaaay older.

she gets her way...coz she is too cute to say "NO" to. with her cherubic smile and curly locks, its almost impossible to deny her anything especially with her pleeezzz and kisses.

of cos we scold her non-stop cos she is a non-stop mischief girl. but she also has her magic to make all of you melt....scold her severely (she knows we mean business) and she immediately open up her arms, hugs you and say..."i lub yooo" other times (when not so serious) she will change subject and talk about something else or try to say something stooopid to make you laugh...

miss cheeky (with a twinkle in her eye and those bouncy curls) will go a long way...love u soooooo much!

baby 88 weeks old

love to bathe
she would say "i wan shuong liuong"or "batz"
if i ignore her
she would add "peessss mommiiiiii peeesss"
she would start pulling off her clothes
"take out sam" or "open open" then say "pantz" "take out pantz"

her vocab is quite amazing. her weight is too = 14+ kg

the trouble is this "shuong liuong" request happens every time she goes to my room - sometimes she end up having many many baths a day...either a water baby or a screaming baby...for sanity sake-i chose "batz peesssss"

she call popo - SAM

the girls

school ended, girls are happy, looking forward to days without home work.

erika did improve a lot from her first semester, but still need lots of help with her languages. gonna stop her music lessons for a while - she lost her first love for her piano and i wanna "psycho" her to find it back. will start lessons for elli instead and see if erika gets inspired to pick up.

elli got perfect score for her test - which came as a surprise to one who answered " i dunno" to all my questions on her school work. she love writing numbers and alphabets but find chinese characters really tough.

yee ma starting erika on swimming lessons - but elli the opportunist, sneaked into her car and jumped into the pool. erika had to coax into the pool by elli, after half the lesson was over. ku ma bought the girls robes and caps and googles, all smiles for shopping.

evira is the cutest ever with curly locks and if she does anything wrong - and whenever we demand her to say sorry, she will sign "sorry" by putting her little chubby hands on her head. with the sorry look and quickly give u a "tum kuat" (massage). she can call all of us...the last she called is kong kong, but she boss him around the most, coz she knows he let her wins all the time.

synn and jern - as usual - did their parents proud with their exceptional results, so lucky wan!

here is the last photo taken by daddy of the "gang of 6"

elli's dream

after waking up from her afternoon nap, elli told this to popo. and she has been repeating this story so vividly to everyone.

i saw daddy wake up, and the workers open the door (?) and he come out from the box.

he saw a lot of flowers and take all the flowers and go home to plant them.

he come home and kiss me, Erika, baby, mommy and everybody.

everybody say "hoooray" because my daddy wake up already

we love daddy and we always want daddy to stay with us.

elli said that this was the REAL daddy

she saw him surrounded by white (showing me with her hands) and that there was a white round fat thing on his head. he look very handsome. the white thing stop daddy from coming back.

she sort of expressed that daddy's face was glowing - white thing!!

jesus told daddy sorry because he cannot go back.

she said the "bluff" daddy was in the box and the "REAL" daddy was with Jesus.

he will never ever die again.

i love u daddy

daddy said bye bye

he is going to heaven


after this dream, elli has found her joy again...we are so blessed to have her.


update 6 august
erika also dream about her daddy.

she said she was walking into the house, she heard daddy's voice, she ran in and saw him sitting on the day bed. they hug and kissed...then she woke up.

i also dreamt of daddy.

his cousin also-and he saw him wake up!!

my sis saw him at the funeral, he was singing with us (don moen cd ~ rivers of joy was playing) and told her - dun worry, he will take care of everything.

report card

elli had report card day last saturday and erika will be today.

we went for elli's and didn't go for erika's.

elli is doing well in school, teacher says she can stand up for herself very well - which translates to she can fight with the boys or pick a quarrel if the occasion arises...yahooo....way to go, guuurrrrl!! so proud of your vocal abilities and your gutsi-ness. elli loves to play with boys only (if she has a choice) and girls if there are no boys around.

as for erika it's not that I am not proud of her achievements...it sometimes border on the brink of "embarrassment"...but am glad that she is not taking it badly or suffering from low self-esteem. in fact she loudly proclaim she is number 35 in a class of 37. i scratch my head!! we have tried all works even bribery...used to say if u get 20 and above, we take u to disneyland....now we gotta say if u get 35 and above...coz we really wanna go!! she is just an excuse to pack our bags. what crazy parenting is this??

i seriously have no clue what is happening in erika's head...her teachers have been telling us from 3 years old till now that she's one word - "dreamy". when will she wake up? i dunno, this sleeping beauty need to awaken with a potent kiss.

update 24 June
erika showed us her report card - she's not 35 but 34 in a class of 38!!

baby turned 1

well she turned one on 28 April...celebrated on labour day...in rememberance of all the labour mommy went thru and is still going thru!!

small teeny weeny party amongst family only.

our birthday girl took to the limelight and perform on the piano - to the delight of everyone, reading the "notes" and turning the pages and playing the keys - multi-tasking!! she is still maintaining her beautiiifoool figure.

her che che helped her blow off the "only" candle.

she has 4 teeth and is starting to bite us...especially our feet. yuucks! she never bite when she had 3 teeth...?? wonder why?

starting her separation anxiety stage...croc tears when she sees anyone leave without bringing her "kai kai" (along).