Saturday, November 17, 2007

baby policy!!

at the recent gynea visit, i also brought up the subject of tubal ligation.

in the end the options are clear that it is way way way better if daddy did it and not me, coz a woman's body is so complicated, as expected la, so is everything else about a woman! but when i approach this subject with daddy, (it's like a taboo subject) he gets so irritated and thinks i am pushing him off the cliff, saying we have plenty of time to think about it.

he thinks all we need to do is not do it at the "wrong time" or use all the right stuff or just plain control! is that really possible all the time? i want to be 100% sure....dun get me wrong, i love and adore my angels but 3 is enuff la.

i wanna be in control of my own body, i dun wanna leave things to chance, not that i am a crazy control freak but this is about my life!

for a guy just shoot and that's it...well basically that's all....but for a woman...it's a whole long process if something is "cooking in the oven" la. there's the crazy roller coaster ride of preggynausiousness for 4 months (if u are lucky), then the swollen out-of-shapy time with hormones going wild....then the bone crushing and pushing a watermelon out of a pee hole! not even talking about the risk we have to bear in the whole process, after that gotta start dealing with all the "excesses" accumulated!

no way. i wanna be 100% sure that it won't ever happen again, not leaving anything to chance....or as daddy said...if god wants us to have....blah blah blah.

i am not playing god....but i am also angry what if he dun do it....it ends up with me going thru a more dangerous op, taking all the risks on my poor body, and like i am doing it for myself...when it's actually for the family.

logically the answer is so simple...but emotionally and psychologically it's NOT!

8 comments:

mott said...

I'm lucky..my hub is quite happy to tie up. But then..when will he do it? hmmm....

Hope ur hub will come around to it. it's not end of his sex life mah...!

BabyBooned said...

oh wow. this is a major issue. i totally understand your feelings though. even with only one pregnancy sometimes i feel like the guys will never understand what we women go through.. coz for them it's just shoot! but dunno la.. maybe your hubby really really needs time to get used to the idea.

NomadicMom said...

I supposed he feels like his "manhood" is taken away???

The New Parent said...

Hi M2A--I agree, it is easier for a guy to be tied then a woman. I do understand your hubby's hesitancy, but you are correct.

huisia said...

same here, if i really brought this subject up then i can foresee what he says will exactly like what your hubby said.

Sasha said...

*sigh* this is sensitive issue.Susah..susah....

Julian said...

I'm not afraid of anything... just afraid of operations.... hahaha... :-)

laundryamah said...

it's a man thing...u know what I mean??? Why dont u look at other options which are less risky..I was thinking about it too, can't remember the name for it,,neh the implant of a tiny thing under your skin ge leh..